Safety Planning

If you are still in the relationship:

• Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
• Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
• Make copies of all your important paperwork, birth certificates, social security cards, immunization records, etc. put them in a safe place or give them to a safe family member or friend.
• Keep your cell phone with you at all times.
• Memorize all important numbers.
• Establish a "code word or story” to alert family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
• Think about what you will say to your partner if they become violent.

 If you have left the Relationship:

• Change your phone number.
• Screen calls.
• Give copies of any court orders or orders of protection to friends, work and, if applicable, the children’s school.
• Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer.
• Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
• Avoid staying alone.
• Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
• If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place.
• Vary your routine.
• Notify school and work contacts.
• Call your local domestic violence service provider. In Orange County, Safe Homes – 1-888-503-4673.

Important papers you should take include social security cards and birth certificates for you and your children, your marriage license, leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names, your checkbook, your charge cards, bank statements and charge account statements, insurance policies, proof of income for you and your spouse (pay stubs or W-2's), and any documentation of past incidents of abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)